An individual’s midlife crisis and/or extramarital affair draws attention and often scorn from individuals in our society, spreading like wildfire through gossip circles.
“How could he do that to the children?” or “What was she thinking?”
Aghast that someone could shirk the loyalties and responsibilities associated with spouse and family, there is often a reaffirmation that it will never happen to my family. Yet a midlife crisis can sneak up on you, and may not necessarily manifest as an affair but rather may present in the form of a major life change that is out of character.
The Guardian recently published an article discussing that the level of satisfaction with life declines gradually to its lowest point in the early forties but typically increases again by the time you reach your seventies. Interestingly, this finding was independent of the existence of children in the household but rather correlated with the amount of responsibilities shouldered in between childhood and old age. Book-ended by years in which you can count on others caring for your well-being, the pressures of becoming self-reliant and caring for others while attempting to meet your own expectations for your life can become overwhelming.
Regardless of the reasons leading up to a mid-life crisis, what many forget in the world of divorce law is that Colorado and the majority of the other states in the U.S. do not take fault into consideration during the divorce proceedings. The fact that one spouse had an affair is not on its own relevant to determining the parenting time, child support, property division, or maintenance in any given case. And the other parent’s affair is not something to be discussed with a child at any point. Leaving a marriage that is unhappy but familiar can take a lot of courage, but it is important that the children be insulated and protected from any animosity or discontent.
Contrary to the stigma attached to the concept of a “midlife crisis,” Caroline Daus wrote about the benefits of her own crisis, clarifying that she sought happiness and the determination of her own self-worth. So whether leaving a marriage due to an extramarital affair or for an entirely new life “on the road” on the back of a Harley, the parties can keep in mind that they are each entitled to make the choices for themselves without “judgment” from the Court.
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